Celebrating Holi in the times of Balam Pichkari

Yes I belong to the millennial generation and we have a reason and purpose of doing everything. So many years of my life I have celebrated Holi in the way that everyone does. Applies colors,eats drinks and makes merry.There has been no deeper meaning for me for this festival.However over the years even that kind of holi has stopped as once there used to be a lot of color all over me that would take days to come off. This color would remain everywhere from the face to hands, Hair,Nails and left me feeling bad. Even the hair would get fuzzy and require me to go to a beauty parlous.

However every time I see the song Balam Pichkari jo tune mujhe mari. I long to play Holi in a more playful manner .So the closest I come to playing Holi in this carefree and bindass style is to play the Balam Pichkari song every Holi. Pretty boring and mundane Huh!

For someone who grew on a daily dose of Bollywood the perfect Holi celebration I wanted a greater dose of Bollywood

With this plan in mind and with the intent of having a wonderful Holi celebration

I have decided to have a Bollywood style theme party. So what if I am a girl of the balam pichkari generation. My hearts still beats for the famous Sri Devi Song from the famous Hindi movie called Lamhe. It was a breathtakingly beautiful celebration between Lord Krishna and  his brijbalas.

Indeed it would be a memorable way to celebrate Holi in a fashion that Lord Krishna used to celebrate after all this was the seed of celebration of the festival of holi that bloomed into a flourishing tree of festivities but perhaps due to the lack of time or disinterest we are missing out on a great festival of colors.

I would be content and happy with such a Holi celebration however my sister is a die hard Yash Chopra movies fan and since festivals are time to take care and pamper our family I would keep another theme as well so that I can rope her in the celebrations and the theme I would do for her is the Silsila theme. As I could do anything to see her playing Holi all dressed in white and prancing around trying to put color to the faces of her friends and guests it would be a novel experience that would bring all those who do not celebrate back in the mood to celebrate Holi with full gusto. So the mood of the Holi party would be cheerful. Dress code :whites and the motto: #KhulKeKheloHoli

All are cordially invited.

“I’m pledging to #KhulKeKheloHoli this year by sharing my Holi memories at BlogAdda in association with Parachute Advansed.”

Salute to those who share the load

There must be a reason as to why all household chores as well as the task of doing laundry are supposed to be a woman’s job. Women have never claimed that they are good at or rather better than men in keeping house in perfect order or that they are very good at washing clothes.

A gender bias seems to be at work and it seems that the male have a prejudice against washing of clothes and thinking it to be a lowly task have relegated to the women.

The males consider themselves to be stronger and superior to the females who are considered to be the weaker sex. This is why they suppress them further and burden them with multitude of house hold tasks and the washing of dirty linen. It is very unfair that the men do not want to do their own work but want the women to do them. This clearly depicts their mental state wherein they take the women for granted and they do not wish to give the women an equal status. At every stage of life they belittle the women and criticize the quality of her efforts. They are always finding fault with her.

There was a time when women were housewives only and the men thought them to be having plenty of time as compared to them. From fetching a glass of water to keeping their important documents securely and of course the lowly task of washing clothes was meant to be attended by the women. This was a clear case of shirking responsibility and a task well done was never appreciated but a lapse or a small error was severely reprimanded.

With changing times women have started working outside their homes. This does not excuse them from doing the household chores or looking after the house and doing the laundry. All these tasks still remain their responsibility. No helping hand comes forward to #ShareTheLoad. This is a sorry state of affairs where the women work endlessly without respite. There is a silver lining to the dark clouds. Ariel the detergent giant has come forward asking the men to help their women by joining the #ShareTheLoad campaign. I wish to salute and thank all those men who are helping their mother, sister and wife with the house hold chores and even not feeling ashamed of either washing their own clothes or helping the women do the laundry. This initiative led by Ariel and BlogAdda is sure to impact the thinking of men and break the gender bias which has been ruling till now. More and more men would come forward to #ShareTheLoad

 “I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.”

If you love share the load

In nearly each and every household the question as to who would perform the household chores and laundry is a pivotal issue. All eyes turn towards the women, it may be a mother a sister or the wife and she is singled out for the task of doing all the household chores as well as doing the laundry. This is so because all men have seen these tasks being performed by the women only. More over they have been taught by their fathers and mothers that it is not a task for them. So they start ignoring these tasks completely. When thirsty they will always demand that they are given a glass of water and the obvious choice to execute this demand is of course the women. Slowly but steadily the numbers of house hold tasks expected to be done by the women goes on increasing in both number and volume.

Mother’s love their children and would never ask them voluntarily to do any house hold task or even dream of asking for help in doing the laundry.

On the other hand the children too love their mother and care for them. So dear children stop and look at your mother, your sister and think how much of a help it would be for them if you start keeping your things in order like little knick knacks your pencil box which your mother frantically searches for when packing your school bags. If you start keeping your things in place it would leave the room looking tidy and things would be easier to find. As a result it would also reduce the load on your over loaded mother. Offering help when she is washing the laundry would be a great respite for her, wringing the load of clothes and then placing them on the clothes line would make her feel greatly happy as she would be able to feel your love for her as well as show her that you care for her. This act of yours of #ShareTheLoad will bring happiness to both of you.

Now it’s the turn of the men. Do you not care for and love your mother, your sister and wife. So now it’s your turn to show you care. Weekly wash days would be a welcome change when the parents and children get together to make laundry a pleasure and enjoyable task. It would also reduce the time taken in doing a task which is normally a burden for a single person. You too can help in keeping the house tidy by not cluttering your things and keeping them in order. Remember the times you have complained about your home looking unkempt and untidy while your neighbor’s home is always tidy. Such a comparison causes great hurt and shame to the women you love and who are constantly trying to set things right while all other members do not stop from making a mess and making the home look untidy. This is one person against many. Have you ever wondered why your neighbor’s home is always spick and span. It is because all the members are doing their bit in #ShareTheLoad 

 “I am joining the Ariel #ShareTheLoad campaign at BlogAdda and blogging about the prejudice related to household chores being passed on to the next generation.”